I was recently watching a YouTube video on the channel ‘SoulPancake’ called “Tell My Story.”
To recap the show, it’s like a blind date, and the 2 individuals have pre-asked questions and they have to guess what the correct answer is about the other person. In the end, they tell each other if they would date the other person.
In this particular episode, the (white) man was a devout Christian and believed that his God-sent wife was a black woman. The (black) woman went first and guessed his religious views. She was partially correct, as she claimed to believe in God too.
Now here’s where it gets interesting… the guy tells her that his relationship with God is super important. The question was brought up about what they thought happens after you die. The woman said that she believes that when you die you just die. She reiterated a couple of times that she didn’t believe in an afterlife after death.
If you’re a Christian (and not just by name), then you know in your soul that Heaven and Hell are very real. If you’ve accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior and follow His commands, then you know you’re going to Heaven.
Once he told her that he believed that when you die you’re either going to Heaven or Hell, she switched up real quick. Now, her answer matched his somewhat, but she claimed that she meant she didn’t believe in reincarnation. Of course he called her out on it (in a nice way), but it just became cringey to watch afterwards.
In the end, she chose the option of wanting to date him. He, on the other hand, chose the option of not dating her. “When I first saw you, I would not date you, but after talking to you…. I still wouldn’t date you.”
Right off the bat, my discernment was going off about her. She radiated desperation, which caused her to switch up her answers to match his. Listen, this is why I say that our gifts of discernment MUST be updated daily. Counterfeits look like real thing, but once you test them by fire, their hearts will be revealed.
I have no doubt in my mind, that this man knew right off the bat that she wasn’t the one. Even I could tell that she was nowhere on his level spiritually.
Christians can still be unequally yoked to another Christian. You can have 2 good Christian people, but if God didn’t ordain for them to be together, the relationship will be bad. It’s like trying to fit a circle into a square. This man tested her faith, and she fizzled.
What had me a bit upset was the comments. Most people were praising the woman, but bashing the man because he said he could see them being friends.
Hear me when I say that he wasn’t full of himself. He’s committed to his faith, and she isn’t. I respect him for disappointing her with the truth now instead of leading her on with a lie that would have broken her heart down the road.
Some people were saying that he wasn’t true to himself, but he tested her by fire and she was left in a pile of ashes. If it’s meant to be, you won’t have to try and force it. If you use manipulation to get them, you’ll have to continue to use manipulation to keep them.
He was honest the entire way through, but people still attacked his character. I told you that story to encourage those of you who are waiting on your God-sent. STAY TRUE TO YOUR FAITH.
I’ve turned down countless of guys in my DM’s wanting to marry me. Some claiming God told them I was their wife (apparently that was a one-sided conversation, because I didn’t get the memo). Others claiming that my relationship with God drew them to me (like a moth to a flame- they didn’t stand a chance against the light of God’s word).
I wholeheartedly believe that when we meet our soulmates (because a soulmate is someone who cares for your soul), that we will recognize them. And no, I’m not talking about love at first sight. I mean, love at soul sight.
Love at first sight claims you fall in love with a person instantly, but love at soul sight is much more powerful. The soul is a powerful being, and when you’re in tune with God, your soul will recognize their home in the soul of the one you’re meant to be with. And it always comes with God’s confirmation.
Love at soul sight is a divine connection. It’s not instantaneous (however, some cases are different). You may have already met your soulmate or know them as a friend, colleague, associate etc, but it may not be time for God to reveal you to each other. He has you hidden so, you can heal, mature or do that assignment He told you to do years, months or days ago.
I’m telling you, when God sets up the great reveal, you will know that no one but God could do it.
Don’t try to force a relationship. Love at soul sight is so natural. You won’t have to lie, cheat, manipulate or steal to get it. Trust God, and trust His process. Always remain true to who you are, because the counterfeits will test you.
And if you don’t know who you are or what your purpose is, then you don’t need to be in a relationship at all. If you just got out of a relationship, HEAL. Stop dating while you’re broken; you’re only going to hurt the next person you get into a relationship with. If you’re out there having sex, STOP compromising your body, REPENT and CUT those soul ties. If you’ve got addictions, or generational curses, BREAK them. GET DELIVERED and stay delivered (self-control)!!
If you think your soulmate will cure your insecurities, think again. They won’t fill that void in your heart or magically cure your addictions and bad habits with their love. If you think this way, your relationship will fail. Don’t try to put your soulmate in the place of God.
What you don’t overcome in your singleness, will be tested in your dating season and magnified in your marriage (if you make it that far).
The longer you’re in disobedience, the more you delay recognizing your soulmate. Just think, your soulmate is probably waiting on YOU to get in order.
Take heed. I’m trying to help yall out. Take it as an encouragement and a warning also. You could be so much further if you stop fighting the process so much. Throw out all unrealistic expectations of your soulmate being perfect while you come to them having put in no effort to better yourself.
That “take me as I am” motto won’t work on the real one. Growth on both parts is needed and encouraged in order for the relationship to thrive. Don’t expect them to bring 100%, while you’re just pulling in the bare minimum. That’s not fair to them, and that mindset is immature and selfish.
Learn to love all of yourself before you expect someone else to.